When you are learning to sing or taking voice lessons, one of the most important things to keep in mind is your attitude.
Remember that you are in a non-linear process. Singing lessons are not about mastering a set of facts. Yes, pitches need to be true, and rhythms need to be accurate, but you achieve these things through a process of exploration. My most successful students have one thing in common: they bring an attitude of curiosity to their vocal practice. They ask themselves questions: How does this work? How can I do this? When I try this, what do I notice?
Learning to sing is a lengthy process, and it involves a lot of repetition to maintain good singing technique. Bringing an attitude of curiosity to your singing practice will help you to be present with yourself throughout this process. It will help you to overcome frustration and stay actively interested in what is happening in the music.
I’ve noticed many singers falling into the trap of judging themselves against a wished-for outcome and berating themselves for falling short of their expectations. That loop of self-judgment and self-berating results in the singer living in a fantasy of the ego. It is an attitude that takes away the joy of authentic music-making.
Instead, I recommend that you develop the courage to be able to listen to a recording of your lesson or your performance with an attitude of compassion and curiosity. If you can do that, you will have the flexibility to observe, experiment, and make different choices. This flexibility will help you to achieve the vocal results you want.
